Saturday, March 30, 2013

A Love Affair

Some families have addictions.  Systemic, maybe genetic.  My family has a love affair with speed.  I recently thought about a trip my sister, Rosalind and I made from Albuquerque, where we were both going to school at UNM, to Hobbs in two vehicles.  She was driving a friend's station wagon and I was following in my father's 1965 Ford Mustang, a powerful little car that still had trouble keeping up with my "lead-footed" sister in the car ahead.  In case you don't know the road from Vaughn to Roswell, in the early 1970's, it was a long straight stretch of close to a hundred miles, little traffic, and nothing interesting to see.  The speed limit was 80 MPH.  When the state trooper pulled both of us over we were going considerably faster than that.  He was not at all sympathetic to my explanation that I was just trying not to lose my sister.  Two tickets were hard to explain to my Mother!

In an earlier post I shared my grandmother's subterfuge about how long it took her to drive from Hobbs to Illinois.  You can read about it here

My grandfather test drove Harley Davidsons in the early 1900's and eloped with my grandmother riding in a sidecar. Unfortunately we don't have a photo of that event.  But here is a great poster that makes me think of them. 
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The folks in Hobbs used to joke (OK, they were in deadly earnest) that the prestige plate on my grandparent's Cadillac with my grandfather's initials R.O.W. really meant "give them the RIGHT OF WAY!"

Mom crashed her uncle's Model T when she was about ten year's old which would have made it 1927.  Now I wished I had asked Mama just how mad her uncle was with her.  My uncle Ben told me the story which mad Mama mad at him.

In her eighties, my mother, Rose Lee,  still loved cars, and nostalgic for the 1965 Mustang that my Dad had purchased years before, decided to replace her 12 year-old-Buick with a new Ford Mustang Convertible.  Many of our friends were skeptical that this was a good idea as they were all trying to convince their parents that they should quit driving altogether.  At that point, Mama was still picking up my daughter's from school and taking them out for her "adventures."  They loved being picked up in her new yellow convertible.  In fact, all of her friends always wanted Mama to drive as well. 

Even my sister's and my friends were tickled when we occasionally borrowed it for a special ocassionHere is a photo of a friend of Rosalind's birthday party with my Mother in front.

Yesterday, I was reminded that it might be good if I slowed down just a bit, as I scrapped the undercarriage of my car as I flew into a friend's driveway.

American's love affair with their cars (and traveling fast!) began when Henry Ford introduced his automobile and made it affordable for many folks to purchase.  Ford Motor Company is celebrating the 150 anniversary of his birth with many events over 2013.  For a calendar of events, click

Celebrating Henry Ford’s 150th Anniversary

Can you imagine your life without a car?  I know that many cities have wonderful transit systems, but out here in the West, we would be pretty lost without our cars.  Are you ready to go back to horses and wagons, bicycles, or even walking to the store?  Do you do that now?  How much time do you spend in your car?  Do you think a car-less society would be easier or safer?  Would love to hear your thoughts.


Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Japanese Art at two Museums

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A few days ago Rosalind, Brittany and I made a quick dash through the Albuquerque Museum of Art and History.  Currently showing is an exhibit featuring work of artisans in Japan during the Art Deco period.  If you love Art Deco, you will find this exhibit fascinating.  No photos were allowed, so I can only show you images found on other websites. 
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When we visit museums, we always choose one thing in the exhibit that we like the best or find most interesting.  While the paintings, prints, and advertisements were fascinating, we all liked the animal sculptures the best. 
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 This one of a bull captures the essence of bull in a very abstract way and the museum had lit it in a way that cast interesting shadows...not shown in this image.
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However, it reminded me that I had never posted about another lovely show I saw while in Costa Rica in January.  

For years, while my father traveled the world as an Air force officer, he would bring dolls to Rosalind and me from the places he visited.  Because his trips were usually classified, he did not give them to us until later so we would not know when he had been to Germany, France, Russia, Poland, etc.  Rosalind loved dolls and took very good care of these little treasures, sometimes guarding them from my tendency to scalp them while playing cowboys and Indians or dissect them when playing doctor.  I did have a favorite though.  The Japanese doll was gorgeously dressed and seemed so fragile that I was extra careful with her.  But she was not nearly as lovely as the Japanese dolls in the museum in Costa Rica.

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Women & Creativity Month

L-R  Ann Hunkins, Pat Malcom, Bonnie Bernal, Melanie Weidner, Renny Golden, Jenn Hart-Mann

An annual celebration of women's creativity and entrepreneurship organized by the National Hispanic Cultural Center and the Harwood Center in collaboration with local and regional partners and artists included "We Are the Eighth Day" exhibit of artwork, poetry, and lectures facilitated by New Mexico Interfaith Power and Light and hosted by St. Mark's on the Mesa Episcopal church.  The show opened on Sunday, March 3 in the Sacred Arts gallery at St. Mark's, 431 Richmond NE and will continue through March 30th.
Scroll down to see a little information about the participating artists.

Featured artists: 
Melanie Weidner 
M.Div., is an artist, spiritual director / coach, and workshop leader shaped by years of Quaker and contemplative practice.  Her work embodies deep values of truth, presence, self-reflection, compassion, and joy.

"I believe that we all have a place deep inside of ourselves where we touch each other and connect with the divine."   

She talked about her favorite scientist, Brian Swimme who is at the forefront of a new movement that integrates science and spirituality. "For him the universe is a radiant, numinous revelation, and contemplating the wonders of the unfolding creativity of the cosmos is a mystical, ecstatic, awe-inspiring event. Swimme says the universe is attempting to be felt, which makes him a pantheist: someone who believes the cosmos in its entirety can be called "God." 

Swimmers ten principles on the conjunction of spirituality and science have inspired some of her artwork. In particular his definition of Emergence or flaring forth.  

"The whole universe is full of the spirit of God.  How can we as artists participate in the power of emergence?"

Renny Golden, poet   

Reading from her new book, Blood Desert, Renny shared portions of "Firestorm and "The Old Woman of Box Canyon," Renny transported us into other places and times.

Blood Desert won the Willa Literary Award from Women Writing the West and was named Southwest Notable Book of the Year-2011
Holly Bahn is an artist, art therapist and creativity guide.  She helps others to connect more deeply with their creative nature to set free their authenticity. Her kaleidoscope mandalas are meditations on the wholeness we feel when we are in the presence of natural beauty. 

Bonnie Bernal - Art teacher, and artist

Bonnie's journey with land arts began at UNM.  "Camping and making artwork outside changed my life."  She became more aware of natural world by  creating shrines in the wilderness using natural objects.    

Shown with the tree shrine she created in the patio at St. Mark's.

"Let these positive words be carried by the wind to create positive energy in the world."

Jen Hartmon- far left

Jenn Hart-Mann - Co-director of UNM Land Arts is an artist, farmer, teacher and mother. 

Jen encourages others to learn and explore through earth arts.    
"Listening to seeds"  Jen's (far left) artwork is shown behind her.  These pieces are free to anyone who will plant and then share the seeds with others.

Dorothy Bunny Bowen
Wax Resist Painting

Ms. Bowen was not able to join the group for the Sunday's opening, but her Kimono silk paintings with wax resist batik spoke powerfully for her.

Visit her website to read her statement about how a vision of nets inspired her recent work of images of nets.

"We have nets to mend"
Diana Stetson.  "Artists are uniquely able to distill environmental issues and make them accessible to the public."  Diana joined the show by video, which is available here

Mixed media in oils.  Studied in Japan and Hong Kong.  Traveled to Turkmanistan as a cultural ambassador.   "Hand graphics."  Very experimental.  Mono prints on glass.  Using painted forms to celebrate the beauty and forms of nature.  
"If you have something to say, do it big."

Currently Showing at the
Commissions Gallery at the State Land Office.

Ann Hunkins, poet and photographer

Ann has been working in fine art and news photography since 1992. She lived in Nepal for three years, and her photographic portraits of Nepali writers won the Willard Van Dyke Grant with the New Mexico Council on Photography. Clients have included: American Horticulturist, The Denver Post, New Mexico Business Journal, Albuquerque Monthly, The Santa Fe New Mexican. She is also also a prize-winning poet, video artist and translator of Nepali literature who studied at Columbia University, received a Fulbright Grant to Nepal, and got her M.A. in Poetry at the University of California at Davis.
"Reed at Dusk"

Pat Malcom, Icon painter

"The images of animals are my attempt to honor the life forms I meet in waking time, in dreams and in journeys. My intent is that once again animals, trees and all life forms will be revered as we learn to see them as sacred."   
Holly Bahn

Below are photos of Bonnie's Interactive Art Installation

Writing Positive words

Monday, March 18, 2013

A Fearless Woman, Rose Lee Stewart Womack 1917-2013

Remembering Mama
Yellow (Mom's favorite color) and white flowers from Mama's Memorial Service and butterfly cookies on her cake plate.  Mama purchased the 30" brass candlestick at a St. Christopher's Episcopal Church yard sale in the 1970's to give to me when I was newly married.  With this post, I am joining Jane's "Flowers in the House" party.  Click on the blue letters link to hop on over to see her many friend's posts about how they use flowers to decorate their homes.

When my sister, brother and I would visit Mama's hometown of Easton, Maryland, folks would stop us on the street to ask if we were her children, and then say, "Rose Lee Stewart was the prettiest girl in town."  

Admittedly it was a small town, but the blond Startt sisters, her 1st cousins were stunning as well, so I have always wondered what people in her town found so attractive about Mama.  Perhaps it was that her personality was as vivid as her dark coloring.  She took after the Colescott's, her mother's family in looks, but who knows from where her charming, fiery temperament came? 

Possibly it was inherited, or it might have been forged in the fires of the Depression
Rose Lee Stewart with her brother, Ben

From her childhood of wearing starched white dresses made by her mother on a Singer (foot pedal operated) sewing machine and buttoned shoes, riding in Model "T's", (and accidentally crashing one when she and her brothers were sure they knew how to drive) to her old age of wearing designer clothes and driving her bright yellow convertible Mustang, which she purchased when she turned eighty, she witnessed:
  •  the infant airline industry turn into men walking on the moon
  •  the helpful and wondrous typewriter become a computer that would print out perfect copies without a single error
  •  the telephone that was attached to the wall and had a real person somewhere connecting you to your party, transform into something so small and mobile, you could carry it with you at all times.

Many of those changes, like women's liberation, she embraced and celebrated, working to make sure her own daughters, granddaughters, and great granddaughters had opportunities to excel.   Some changes, like the economic devastation of the Wall Street crash, she survived.

Smart as a whip, Rose Lee always regretted that she was not able to attend college.  She had been awarded a scholarship, but the death of her father made it imperative that she work to help support her mother and two younger brothers.  Not letting that handicap her, she continued to read widely, attend lectures, and take classes. She became self-educated. 

Defying the expectations of her Eastern Shore Roman Catholic family and her fiance, Stuart Lewis, she ran away with and married the handsome young officer from the West (who was Protestant and divorced) she met through a family friend.  Lt. Russell Ogden Womack II was stationed in Baltimore and came to Easton for the weekend.  Ignoring the ring on her finger he courted her with the passion that would characterize their relationship for the rest of his life.  Her life with my father would become a great adventure and a passionate love affair.

Negotiating the shoals of being an Air Force wife, she moved house sometimes twice a year following her officer husband around the country. San Angelo, Roswell, Alamogordo, Tulsa flew by as she had babies and packed and repacked.   Each time she moved to a new town, she hung the pictures on the walls before she went to bed the first night, declaring, "if I don't do it tonight, it might never get done!"  Within a few days, she would have scoped out the attractions of our new home and off we would go to explore the museums, the parks, and the historical sights.  

She would read to her children each evening, usually something a little over our heads, because as she said, "If I don't enjoy it, why would they?"  For us and for her, the magic of reading became another way to explore the world.  And exploring was her joy!  

Even the highly stressful posting to Morocco was exciting to Rose Lee.  
Mama's court of admiring sailors helping her disembark at Marrakech, Morocco 

Guerrilla fighting went on around Rabat daily as the Moroccans fought to win their independence from France.  Despite having suitcases packed at all times for possible evacuation, Rose Lee created a magical sense of safety in the pretty white villa where we lived near the Sultan's palace.  At night we could sometimes hear the lions, kept by the royal family, roaring in their cages. 

The upstairs living room and terrace were perfect for the parties she hosted for the lonely expats stationed in Rabat.  Think "Mad Men" in an exotic locale with the scent of hedges of geraniums, bouganvilla growing to the rooftops, and the Moroccan breezes cooling the evenings.  Costume parties, birthday parties, cocktail parties, baby showers, and tea parties seem to dance in my memory to the jazz sounds of the music that my father loved.  

While we enjoyed the sound of my father's Jazz, the sound of my Mom's lullabies were missing.  My father forbade Mom to sing.  When she forgot, he would say, "Rose Lee, don't sing to the children, you will make them tone deaf!"  No one could tell my Mom what to do!  No one that is except her charming, glamorous husband with his twinkling hazel eyes and his deep dimples. 

One night (when Dad was away on who knew what secret mission) a worried Barka, our live-in nanny and cook, knocked on Mom's bedroom door and implored her to come to her quarters. 
Barka dressed for a party.
There Rose Lee found Barka's husband, bleeding from a gunshot wound.  He was a member of the Resistance fighters and would be arrested if he went to a hospital, so Mama stitched him up with her sewing kit and poured Daddy's best whiskey over the wound.  I have always wondered what that good Muslim man thought about that whiskey use!  There was no doubt in anyone's mind what  Dad thought when he returned home.  His shouting could be heard all over the house...."If he had died, we would have all been murdered in our beds!"  To which Mom tartly replied, "Well, he didn't die, did he?"  

How did she find the courage to try to save this man's life with no medical training?  And how did she know to fashion a tourniquet to keep her two year old son from bleeding to death when he cut his wrist, "boxing with my shadow" on the french doors.  Driving madly through the streets of Rabat to the military hospital, she calmly told me, "Turn the stick.... loosen the stick." Terribly worried, my sister (or maybe it was me) asked, "Rusty isn't going to die is he?" "Am I going to die, Mama?" asked Rusty.  To which Mama replied, "None of my children are going to die, don't you even think about it!" So we did not dare question our safety with our lioness of a Mom in charge of our lives.

We did make it safely back to the States and Mama got over the shock of no longer having a cook and gardener.  Throwing herself into life in suburban Tacoma, Washington, she became the social center of the neighborhood with dinner parties, barbeques, picnics, cocktails at 5:00 p.m and children's events like parades, snow forts with hot chocolate at our house afterwards, and decorating for all the holidays.  Mama loved a good party.
 Although not at all good with a sewing machine, she gamely attempted Halloween costumes, ballet dresses, and school clothes.  Once, not the least bit sympathetic to the hours Mama had labored over dresses made of very stiff fabric, my sister and I flatly refused to them.

But in the shadow of Mt. Rainer, nothing, not even the constant rain could dampen Mama's spirits.

Many weekend evenings would find her dressing for a dance at the officer's club and she and Daddy would whisk away, leaving us in the charge of our favorite babysitter, Mary Kemp from next door to dance until the wee hours.  We would awaken to laughter and the aroma of bacon as the party adjourned to our house for an early breakfast.  Mama was up first thing with us, but we had better not make any NOISE until at least 11:00 a.m. or a very grumpy Daddy who emerge from the bedroom and roar!  

Initially dismayed by the expenditure of quite a bit of the family income, Mama grew to love the outings on Puget Sound in the boat my Daddy laughingly christened "Rose Lee's Despair."

Not that everything was sweetness and light.  My Daddy always grew nervous and upset when my grandmother Rose came for a visit.  Her Roman Catholic heart never quite got over Mama leaving the church to marry him.  On one visit, Mama picked up grandmother from the airport after spending the day cooking and cleaning for the celebratory dinner.  5:30 p.m. came and went. No Daddy.  At 6:30, Mama served dinner with tightened lips.  At 8:00 p.m. we were sent to bed with no a single bite of the strawberry chiffon pie that Mama had slaved over.  

Daddy arrived home at 11:00 to find himself locked out.  Pounding on the kitchen door, he was finally let in.  Mama was holding the pie.  "Where exactly have you been?" she demanded.  "Well, I stopped off for a drink at the Officer's Club, he replied sheepishly (and drunkenly).  Spotting the pie, he asked "Hey, did you save that pie for me?"  Mama smiled and said, "I certainly did!" and threw it in his face.  Swaying slightly, my Dad cleared his face and flung the pie goo all over the kitchen that my Mom had just so thoroughly cleaned.  Shocked, Mama was speechless until Dad asked, "Do you know where the camera is?"  Now really mad, Mom (forgetting grandmother asleep in Rusty's room) shouted, "Why in the h.... do you want the camera?"  Daddy grinned and said, "I want a picture of me to remember that you love me enough to waste a pie on me!"  Although my Mama made lots of pies, she never again made a strawberry chiffon one.

We all loved Tacoma, but once again the Air Force moved us and Rose Lee was left behind to sell the house, pack up the belongings and follow Daddy to St. Louis.  Mama, although keeping in touch with her Tacoma friends for the rest of her life, never looked back.  Once again she had a new place to explore.

She found a big old Victorian house with a basement, attic and a sun room and her antiques, which had been a little too elegant in the modest ranch house in Tacoma, settled in feeling right at home.

Dragging out the Singer, Mom made drapes for the nine foot tall windows, combed the estate sales and auctions for a few more pieces to fill this larger house and set about charming the St. Louis folks.  What a delight St. Louis was for her.  Closer to her family on the Eastern Shore, we made more frequent trips back East.  
Downtown St. Louis
St. Louis was  a cosmopolitan town with lots of cultural attractions and Mama embarked on her "tours." We were still young enough to be enchanted and lost some of the sadness about leaving Tacoma.  Mama's enthusiasms were always contagious.  

We attended operas, plays, lectures and art shows.  We visited doll museums and historical sites and were intriqued to see that there was a spool bed in President Lincoln's home just like the one we had.
Lincoln's home, Springfield, Ill.

 We made lots of trips to the Anheuser Busch Grants Farm, with beer tasting for my Dad, Clydesdale's for
the kids, and nobody whining for Mom.

School was challenging and innovative and we all loved it as Mama helped us with our projects each evening.  Sometimes we were taken aback that her love of learning meant we explored ideas and subjects not assigned by the teachers.  If they were surprised at the scope of our turned in assignments, they never complained.  As a teacher myself, I have wondered at that, since it must have meant more time grading.

One of my strongest memories of Mama at this time was at Halloween.  She loved to dress up and this year she dressed as a witch.  Never one to do things halfway, she glued a mole on her nose.  I am not sure where she got the long grey straggly wig, but she bore no resemblance to my elegant Mama when she opened the door to that evenings' children who came to trick or treat.   

Mama had an admirer in a young man, who while a little challenged mentally, was a wizard with all growing things.  He mowed our lawn and cared for the struggling plants and shyly worshiped my lovely, laughing Mama.  Much too old to be trick or treating, none the less, all the neighbors were fond of him and ignored his age.  Mama, in fun, had been pinching the children's cheeks, commenting on how fat they were and inviting them in to check out her oven.  Horrified, her young admirer backed away and began to shout..."she's crazy!"  Contrite at scaring him, Mom ripped off the wig and tried to catch him to explain, but he ran like the wind.  It took weeks for Mama to coax him back to work.  She used this experience to teach us to be more careful about peoples abilities to understand subtleties. 

Ahead... a big challenge for Mama loomed....but I'll share that in the next post about her life.